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Wednesday, 4 August 2010

Lessons learned

I have been involved in an argument on an Amazon forum during the course of the last few months. Please bear in mind that it never really annoyed me and it caused me quite a bit of amusement one way and another. I don't believe I wrote anything that was at all nasty as I tried to make my posts purely factual. About the only thing I could be criticised for was agreeing with the person concerned that yes in my opinion she was being paranoid.

The lessons I have learned:

  • Don't ever show something is important to you or you feel strongly about something otherwise you will be ridiculed
  • Accept all abuse without retaliating
  • If someone accuses you of breaking any rules or laws - don't rise to it and defend yourself - you'll only end up in the wrong
  • Everything you think is insulting is actually humorous and you're the stupid one for taking it seriously - no good expecting your own comments to be taken as a joke because they won't be.

I'm semi-serious about those points but I actually think the person I was arguing with has a screw loose.

Some of the problem is that I have developed a reputation for being reasonable and rational and not insulting people and I was consequently arguing with my hands tied behind my back and with a bag over my head while the other person behaved like drifting mist and turned round everything I said to mean the opposite of how it was intended.

Baffled by the whole thing - yes I am. Communication to me is a two way process and I have no problem with people disagreeing with me. I always mean exactly what I write - unless I put a winking smiley at the end of it. Other people seem to take the piss all the time. Oh well we're all different and there's nowt so queer as folk.

2 comments:

kcm said...

Thank you for that, Jilly. I might have to steal your lessons learnt as a quote. :-)

BTW, I'm glad it isn't just me that gets Taiwanese porn spam in my comments.

Jilly said...

These Taiwanese comments get in everywhere - still easy enough to delete them!

Please feel free to quote my 'words of wisdom'